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Sort of NSFW: Switching (& July 4th)
By Tonya Jone Miller | July 2, 2008
Well well well. Write a little story about dominating someone, and you better be prepared to hear about it from people who are accustomed to making you their whining, pleading bitch of a fucktoy. LMFAO! You know you you are. *wink* It’s fun to switch when it suits my mood, what can I say?
Unfortunately, it appears if I want to explore the mistress in me, I’m going to have to find subs who can accomodate my learning curve. I think I don’t move fast enough for most prospective play partners. Which you will probably find amusing, if you know me at all. But see, my life is pretty damn excellent, and I don’t want to fuck it up by rushing into a situation that’s not right for me. I have fairly specific needs and expectations of any kind of intimacy outside of my relationship with Howard, so it’s worth taking time to find the right person and moving slow enough to build boundaries and comfort levels.
I’m really looking for two people…First, one dominant male or female, because I would like to experience more intense and extreme submission, humiliation, and pain. Not only do I enjoy it, but I also think it helps me when in control to understand what my sub is going through. Second, a submissive male for all sorts of physical punishment and psychological mind games. For some reason, at least right now, submissive females do not appeal to me. Part of me thinks it’s because I would have a hard time hurting another woman (even with her consent), but the other part of me thinks I’d frighten myself with how easily I might redirect my repressed gender rage. Lol, but true.
As much as I adore phone sex, especially with an element of kink, I do need more practical bdsm experience. Thankfully, I have enough to know that things rarely turn out the way you expect them to. Being honest, compassionate, and flexible is usually a better way to both please your partner and get what you want, than subscribing to some dictate that all subs act one way and all doms another.
Just my thoughts. *smile* Now I need to go buy fixin’s for our Fourth of July barbecue on Friday. We’re just having a couple of friends over, but you know me…I’m incapable of planning food for anything less than a small army. Here’s the menu…
hamburgers
hot dogs & bratwurst
chips and veggies with dip
macaroni salad
baked beans
chocolate chip cookies (and maybe snickerdoodles)
sangria
I was thinking of making an apple pie because, well, it’s just so patriotic. But it’s also labor intensive (peeling and coring and slicing, oh my!), so in the true American spirit, I decided to be lazy instead. Hehehe! I ~am~ making the cookies and the sangria myself, but everything else is going to be store-bought. I may be a budding foodie, but on July 4th, I want pure Americana. Wonder bread buns and deli-counter macaroni salad and sugary baked beans from a can. Juicy dogs that plump when you cook ‘em (for just one day, fuck those fat-free filler dogs!). Greasy, cheesy burgers that ooze deliciousness all way down to your elbows. I’d even consider making Paula Deen’s ultimate heart attack burgers, but they take too much work. Lol. I’m off to the store…
Topics: My Life | 1 Comment »
July 14th, 2008 at 6:52 am
It’s pleasing to imagine your follow-through as a grown woman. I feel for the sub-male that meets your criteria. His life will be forever changed.