Comments for Tonya Jone Miller http://tonyajonemiller.com actress - writer - foodie - aural courtesan Mon, 30 Apr 2012 21:38:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on Artgasm by hk http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1919#comment-9140 hk Mon, 30 Apr 2012 21:38:11 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1919#comment-9140 You're not "going to be okay." You ARE okay. Your play rocks. There's nothing in this world more right, more representative of what should be, than you on a stage. :-) You’re not “going to be okay.” You ARE okay. Your play rocks. There’s nothing in this world more right, more representative of what should be, than you on a stage. :-)

]]> Comment on Size Matters by Matt Mohill http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1913#comment-9114 Matt Mohill Wed, 18 Apr 2012 03:55:00 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1913#comment-9114 Tonya, Life has a way of fucking with all of us. Our heads fuck with us even worse. Self worth is an emotion that everyone tackles everyday because someone else decided what you were worth....and then told you about it. Yes..."not all fat is bad for you." Being fat is unhealthy....especially if you aren't able to do the things you enjoy the most in life. When I think of you...I think of you smiling and acting. I assume that's what you enjoy in life. Do not let your head....or anyone else fuck with that. If you aren't enjoying those things...dig deep and fix it immediately! See you in a couple months. Matt Tonya,

Life has a way of fucking with all of us. Our heads fuck with us even worse. Self worth is an emotion that everyone tackles everyday because someone else decided what you were worth….and then told you about it.

Yes…”not all fat is bad for you.” Being fat is unhealthy….especially if you aren’t able to do the things you enjoy the most in life. When I think of you…I think of you smiling and acting. I assume that’s what you enjoy in life. Do not let your head….or anyone else fuck with that. If you aren’t enjoying those things…dig deep and fix it immediately!

See you in a couple months.

Matt

]]> Comment on Size Matters by Scarlet Dee http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1913#comment-9097 Scarlet Dee Wed, 11 Apr 2012 00:53:18 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1913#comment-9097 You are beautiful Tonya. Thank you for sharing this. You are beautiful Tonya. Thank you for sharing this.

]]> Comment on Size Matters by Em de la Creme http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1913#comment-9095 Em de la Creme Tue, 10 Apr 2012 16:00:15 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1913#comment-9095 I could have written this word for word. Thank you. YOU are beautiful; a thing not defined by your cellulite. Embracing inner beauty and allowing it to truly be reflected in all we see and do is the ABSOLUTE HARDEST thing imaginable for types like us. The scrutinizers. It is SO GODDAMN EXHAUSTING. I feel like the only thing that will shut off the headspace "committee" is time and wisdom. Or just time and dimentia. I am ready for either/both. YOU ARE LOVED. Not just adored; LOVED. Thank you again. I could have written this word for word. Thank you. YOU are beautiful; a thing not defined by your cellulite. Embracing inner beauty and allowing it to truly be reflected in all we see and do is the ABSOLUTE HARDEST thing imaginable for types like us. The scrutinizers. It is SO GODDAMN EXHAUSTING. I feel like the only thing that will shut off the headspace “committee” is time and wisdom. Or just time and dimentia. I am ready for either/both. YOU ARE LOVED. Not just adored; LOVED. Thank you again.

]]> Comment on Size Matters by Tonya Jone Miller http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1913#comment-9089 Tonya Jone Miller Sat, 07 Apr 2012 17:10:35 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1913#comment-9089 No, I am not unhealthy. :) Thank you, Michael. Honestly this post is not fishing for compliments, it's just me trying to wrap my head around something about myself I don't understand. Being a very self-aware person, it's hard to ignore the difficulty I have reconciling what I know in my head (that I'm beautiful and a good person) with what I fear in my heart/gut (that I'm unworthy and unwanted). No, I am not unhealthy. :) Thank you, Michael. Honestly this post is not fishing for compliments, it’s just me trying to wrap my head around something about myself I don’t understand. Being a very self-aware person, it’s hard to ignore the difficulty I have reconciling what I know in my head (that I’m beautiful and a good person) with what I fear in my heart/gut (that I’m unworthy and unwanted).

]]> Comment on Size Matters by Michael http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1913#comment-9088 Michael Sat, 07 Apr 2012 04:34:09 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1913#comment-9088 Tonya, I like you just the way you are. Is your weight causing you health problems? If not, screw it. love you, Michael Tonya,

I like you just the way you are.

Is your weight causing you health problems?

If not, screw it.

love you,

Michael

]]> Comment on The Lesson of Accountability by mallory http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1907#comment-9080 mallory Sat, 31 Mar 2012 03:20:29 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1907#comment-9080 i wish i agreed. i want to agree. and yet some things merely are. nothing changes what is. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxsWBqXBR_0 i wish i agreed. i want to agree.

and yet some things merely are. nothing changes what is.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bxsWBqXBR_0

]]> Comment on The Lesson of Accountability by Sean http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1907#comment-9072 Sean Tue, 27 Mar 2012 01:19:58 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1907#comment-9072 That last comment of yours hit the nail on the head I think. Too often we don't see the choices in front of us or the option of changing the game we are playing. It's always easier to obey then it is to think. That last comment of yours hit the nail on the head I think. Too often we don’t see the choices in front of us or the option of changing the game we are playing. It’s always easier to obey then it is to think.

]]> Comment on The Lesson of Accountability by Tonya Jone Miller http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1907#comment-9071 Tonya Jone Miller Tue, 27 Mar 2012 00:45:19 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1907#comment-9071 Sean, I don't disagree with anything you say. Still, I think it bears acknowledgment that there is always a choice to be made, even if it supposedly "goes without saying." I don't dispute the relational frameworks you speak of, I simply point out that we should be aware they exist. We reinforce messages by repeating them to ourselves, and I think it's important to do that with intention rather than unquestioningly or mindlessly. Sean, I don’t disagree with anything you say. Still, I think it bears acknowledgment that there is always a choice to be made, even if it supposedly “goes without saying.” I don’t dispute the relational frameworks you speak of, I simply point out that we should be aware they exist. We reinforce messages by repeating them to ourselves, and I think it’s important to do that with intention rather than unquestioningly or mindlessly.

]]> Comment on The Lesson of Accountability by Sean http://tonyajonemiller.com/archives/1907#comment-9070 Sean Mon, 26 Mar 2012 23:55:35 +0000 http://tonyajonemiller.com/?p=1907#comment-9070 I liked your post. I think however, that when most of us say "I have" to do something we are really saying that we'd rather do that "thing" than suffer the consequences of not doing it. For example I don't have to do my job, but if I don't I won't keep said job. Therefore if I wish to keep said job I "have" to do the job if not that job may be taken away. Nothing is forced on us in this life, aside perhaps for the condition of living itself, and so in one sense saying that there is nothing we "have" to do is correct. But in practice we live in a world of other agents (agent being an intentional actor) and if we choose to interact with them some relational framework is needed and so we establish rule sets for governing those relations. No one forces us to play by said rules, but we tend to because of the stability in life that such relational frameworks give us I liked your post. I think however, that when most of us say “I have” to do something we are really saying that we’d rather do that “thing” than suffer the consequences of not doing it. For example I don’t have to do my job, but if I don’t I won’t keep said job. Therefore if I wish to keep said job I “have” to do the job if not that job may be taken away. Nothing is forced on us in this life, aside perhaps for the condition of living itself, and so in one sense saying that there is nothing we “have” to do is correct. But in practice we live in a world of other agents (agent being an intentional actor) and if we choose to interact with them some relational framework is needed and so we establish rule sets for governing those relations. No one forces us to play by said rules, but we tend to because of the stability in life that such relational frameworks give us

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