Aural Courtesan
UPDATE December 2021: I have completely retired from phone sex. I’m leaving this page up for informational and educational purposes.
What makes an extraordinary lover is not what is between a person’s legs, but rather what is between their ears.
I live my life openly and freely. I am a creative performer and passionate provider of phone sex. For me, phone sex often transcends mere sexual gratification. Getting to share in the pleasure and relief of my callers and give them, even for a short amount of time, simple acceptance of who they are…It is an honor and a gift. Every day I learn more about myself and humankind through the genuine connections I make with people.
That is the reason I decided to “come out” in a manner of speaking. As is the norm in the phone sex industry, I began providing phone sex under the pseudonym Donna Dione Hill and used legal, licensed photographs of an adult model to represent my character. But I found the deception often detracted from my experience and enjoyment of phone sex. I recognize that some men may prefer pure fantasy, and I hope they find what they seek. There are already a plethora of websites to service those desires. However, there are few places featuring 100% real phone sex girls. With me as me, you get the ultimate erotic reality- a beautifully imperfect, unabashedly deviant woman who loves fantasy and sexual exploration.
Because I know you are dying to ask…No, I don’t just “fake it” all the time. Why would I? I have a healthy libido, lots of toys, and a vivid imagination. Let me put it this way: how long can you talk about sex without becoming aroused? Besides, it takes just as much physical, mental, and vocal effort to fake an orgasm as to actually have one, so I figure why not get to feel the pleasure? What human being in their right mind, when faced with the choice, would pick not having an orgasm over having an orgasm? But maybe that’s just me.
I have always been a sensual, sexual entity. My mother is a therapist and was very open and honest with me about love and sex. I never questioned my sexual nature and desires, so talking about sex, roleplaying, and fantasizing come naturally to me. I discovered early on that I am excited and aroused by things many people would find threatening or unfathomable. Luckily, I have been blessed with partners who encouraged me to explore the darker, psycho-sexual facets of my personality.
Though I have developed quite a penchant for bdsm and adore spankings, whips, restraints, etc., I am a woman of many moods and impulses. It all boils down to not limiting myself. Sometimes I want to tease and/or be teased for hours. Sometimes I want to be tempted or coerced, and sometimes I want to be the seductress. Sometimes I just want to cuddle up and make sweet love. In the realm of fantasy, good and bad are what we make them, so the only limit to what we can do on the telephone is our imagination.
I choose to think of myself as an aural courtesan rather than a phone sex operator. No offense to the “pso’s” of the world, but the term seems a bit clinical to me. Mechanical, impersonal. And my approach to phone sex is anything but. I choose my clientele carefully, because I insist on enjoying my work. I want to like the people I speak with so that I can enjoy myself right along with them. I won’t pretend money plays no part- phone sex is how I support myself, my acting addiction, and my foodie obsessions. But phone sex is not “just a job” to me. In addition to enjoying my phone sex work on an intellectual level, I also receive incredible physical pleasure from it.
As for my life off the phone…I have family nearby who I love very much and friends I’ve known for decades who are still amazingly huge parts of my life. I share my cozy home with a supportive, kind, loving partner and two darling demons disguised as cats. I share my life with an additional partner. I identify as kinky and polyamorous, and am free to explore whatever I choose with whomever I choose. I’ve thought of myself as bisexual for most of my life, because until a few years ago that was the available language that best described me. The truth is I’m less binary and more queer/sapiosexual.
I have chosen to live openly, expressing my relationship and sexual preferences honestly. I’m extremely grateful for and proud of my accomplishments as a writer, actor, aural courtesan, playwright, artist, performer, and sex-positive educator. I don’t feel the need to keep those parts of my life separate. People who can’t accept all the aspects of my being simply do not have a place in my world for very long. They cannot. For just as I don’t expect anyone to live by my personal opinions, nor will I be bound by the spiritual, political, or sexual beliefs of another. What matters most is the ability to look yourself in the eye at the end of the day and know that you are a good and decent person. (That said, I’m probably never going to get hired by a children’s theater, and I’m okay with that.)
Thanks for making it this far! If you’re looking for more biographical details, there are plenty to be found on this website. And as always, the best way to get to know me is to arrange some time for us to chat on the phone. I hope to hear from you soon!
Your Aural Courtesan,
Tonya Jone Miller
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